tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7596141519037463067.post3228353909347328188..comments2023-11-28T21:38:35.517-08:00Comments on Always the Big Girl: GoneBig Girlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15074636207863885259noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7596141519037463067.post-20478473417708301652009-05-27T18:59:28.941-07:002009-05-27T18:59:28.941-07:00I agree with ani pesto and SeaShore....hopefully T...I agree with ani pesto and SeaShore....hopefully The Bride will return to be Your Friend once the newlywed hoopla has died down.<br /><br />I too, have been there and done that and yup. Sucks. Hard.<br /><br />*hugs*Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7596141519037463067.post-62658351452945903322009-05-26T23:54:06.509-07:002009-05-26T23:54:06.509-07:00So sad to hear when someone loses themselves in a...So sad to hear when someone loses themselves in a relationship. Hopefully down the line she'll realize this.H.K.https://www.blogger.com/profile/10555156176113515138noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7596141519037463067.post-15718366766478296762009-05-25T20:21:59.931-07:002009-05-25T20:21:59.931-07:00Sorry to hear that. Perhaps things will change on...Sorry to hear that. Perhaps things will change once the honeymoon phase has passed.Asianmommyhttp://asianmommy.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7596141519037463067.post-10591545257583312752009-05-25T17:31:00.732-07:002009-05-25T17:31:00.732-07:00I love having my husband around, but there is noth...I love having my husband around, but there is nothing like girl time. You can't have the same experience when a boy is around, you just don't.Beth @ Kitchen Minionshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01016766408943064599noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7596141519037463067.post-64795651843620278602009-05-25T03:38:07.511-07:002009-05-25T03:38:07.511-07:00I'm really sorry to hear that. Change isn't always...I'm really sorry to hear that. Change isn't always desirable.Saganhttp://livinghealthyintherealworld.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7596141519037463067.post-26030689979887689452009-05-25T03:15:23.195-07:002009-05-25T03:15:23.195-07:00ouch and I HAVE BEEN THERE.
it still amazes me at...ouch and I HAVE BEEN THERE.<br /><br />it still amazes me at 40 how friends have married (recently) and simply become an appendage of their husband. changed entirely.<br /><br />In a few circumstances though, once all the wedding hoopla settled and the honeymoon was done and regular life came back into play, things have returned to not normal but a NEW NORMAL.<br /><br />here's hoping that happens to you as well.Mizhttp://www.mizfitonline.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7596141519037463067.post-6337327633718238762009-05-24T17:24:31.766-07:002009-05-24T17:24:31.766-07:00I'm so sorry this has happened to you and your fri...I'm so sorry this has happened to you and your friend. She'll regret it later in life.<br /><br />I'm fortunate that one of my close friends appreciates our "friendship time" where we can get together, catch a chic flic and dinner and our husbands don't mind.<br /><br />Sadly, there's another friend of mine that her husband doesn't "allow" her to go out with her friends. This used to be an independent, outspoken woman who is more a crushed spirit now... very sad.<br /><br />We don't have to lose ourselves or our friends, be it single, dating or married.Aletahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05605214202876973830noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7596141519037463067.post-42130305917604152972009-05-24T15:41:11.797-07:002009-05-24T15:41:11.797-07:00That's sad. Hopefully she will come back to herse...That's sad. Hopefully she will come back to herself...but you do wonder why she had to leave in the first place?Shelleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05890227462052573887noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7596141519037463067.post-61657016257315034262009-05-24T09:21:25.825-07:002009-05-24T09:21:25.825-07:00Once the reality of losing yourself in a marriage ...Once the reality of losing yourself in a marriage hits (and it may not for everyone) you may find your friend back to her old good ways. We all go through so many stages and not everyone who was with us early in the journey stays close. Give it some time - she may surprise you. It's hard to watch it happening when you're aware of it and she's not. Best friends are so hard to come by and sometimes even harder to keep as long as we wish we could.Gigihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05117083150374231978noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7596141519037463067.post-1631322162226256462009-05-24T02:41:50.799-07:002009-05-24T02:41:50.799-07:00I was thinking along the same lines as ani pesto. ...I was thinking along the same lines as ani pesto. After the newlywed insanity has worn off, you may find your friend again.SeaShorehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07199274251777490294noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7596141519037463067.post-62508824218871889172009-05-24T01:04:13.738-07:002009-05-24T01:04:13.738-07:00Sorry to hear that. Doesn't mean it's necessarily ...Sorry to hear that. Doesn't mean it's necessarily forever though. I had a very close friend go the same way, when she met her Mr. Wonderful we only ever saw each other on nights when he'd already made plans - she'd never prioritse me anymore, she never made decisions for herself and our friendship changed.<br /><br />BUT - a few years down the track and she settled into her new wife role more securely and we got it back. It's not entirely the same because she has children and they make a whole new set of demands, but she has come back to me and I'm glad I didn't lose touch, she's an amazing woman. <br /><br />As the wedding excitement dies down I hope the Bride too finds that balance and you get your friend back.ani pestohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04634396778826130881noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7596141519037463067.post-6408688688245335042009-05-24T00:27:44.251-07:002009-05-24T00:27:44.251-07:00I had a friend who did exactly the same thing... S...I had a friend who did exactly the same thing... She's been married for 5 years now and I've seen her exactly three times. We phone each other only on birthdays.<br /><br />Before she met her Mr Wonderful, we used to see each other about 4 times per week!<br /><br />I, on the other hand have changed very little since I met my husband. He knew from the outset that my friends are very important to me and appreciates that they support me emotionally, so that it's not all on him! My two best friends are both unmarried and we are still very close. We make time for one another, but also spend time together when my husband is there.<br /><br />It really is all about priorities. Of course my husband comes first, but my close friends are right up there. I wouldn't dream of neglecting them. Having said that, I have almost completely fallen away from my casual friends. There's only so much of me to go around! Hubby and I also really need to make some couple friends...Hanliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16476650601531649816noreply@blogger.com