Tuesday, October 21, 2008

The Bad and Good

Sheesh, where o where does the time go? I can't believe a week has passed and I'm FINALLY posting again.

Here's just a glimpse of what's going on in our life right now. We hung out with The Husband's best friend and his wife this past weekend who had a very fast and furious start to their relationship and now seem to be unravelling at that same pace. They met when they were involved with other people. She married, he, dating a woman. They both left their significant others and within a month bought a house together and moved in. A year after that, they had a child together and a year after that they got married. They've been married a year and a half and it's not a happy relationship. He and I were emailing today and I offered to let him move in with us and I think he'd love to, but is just too far tangled in this mess to see his way out right now. I'm glad it's not me, but it makes me sad to think about them. Love shouldn't hurt nor should it be so difficult.

On another front, would you walk away from a mortgage on a vacation home if that payment was putting you in an extreme financial situation? So much so you worry about losing your primary residence? And no, this isn't me, but someone I am related to.

My work is awful. With the economy falling apart, our billing is down a good 50% or more. I wouldn't be surprised to find some downsizing happening, which would be a first for the company. Even though I am only working part time, I don't thing I would be in jeopardy since I am one of the people who generates income for the company. I would suspect the support staff gets hit first. Or at least that's what I think would happen, but I suppose anything is possible. Just make all this madness end.

On some positive notes...

The Husband and I are happy.
I never owned a vacation house so I don't have to worry about that.
Work is hard, but at least I have a job.


Christine said...

I'd definitely walk away from a vacation home if it was causing me to jeapordize my primary residence! I understand, though, that it's never as cut and dry as it is from the outside.

The economy has me worried for sure. Tough times - and I never really got to enjoy when the getting was good because I was in school.

MizFit said...

Id walk away as well BUT Im fiscally fearful.

not a good place to be ....

yet Im also SO WITH YOU on the marriage thing (my sister's is rapidly unraveling) in that the economy will rally back---Im thankful my marriage is rallyING!

Cammy said...

If you can find silver linings, you're doing fine!

I'd walk away from an unnecessary mortgage rather than see my financial future ruined. But then again, I don't think I could ever sleep at night with TWO mortgages. :)

Hang in there!

Susie said...

amen to all the good..you and hubby,the job and vacation home. It's so good to take a look at the positive..which you seem to ALWAYS do. Looks like the vacation was nice ..especially for the LM. I hope things are ok with your job. Stay positive.

Allison said...

I'm sorry to hear about you friend. That sounds like a tough situation.
I too would walk away from the vacation home. Primary residence is sort of a top priority. You know those basic human needs: shelter, food, etc.

Sagan said...

I'm so glad you're happy!

That's too bad about your friends going through a tough time- but then again, I don't much like the idea of really rushing into a relationship like that. I think that these days we all seem to just rush into relationships and sign papers and get married without really considering what it all means.

Happiness is of the utmost importance!

Blossom said...

No question, if the vacation home is putting your house in jeopardy, sell it! I think it doesn't matter where you are right now, most employment is kind of shaky.

Missicat said...

Definitely would walk away....Then again, I also can imagine taking care of two mortgages! *shudder*
Sorry to hear about your friend's marriage, hope it works out.

Alli said...

Yes I would definitely can the vacation home if it came between that and my regular house!
Wow girl sounds like you have alot on your plate emotionally! Hope you can take some time for yourself this weekend! Definitely puts blessings in perspective though when you watch others going through things.