Wednesday, September 23, 2009

Wifely Duties

Well we did it last night. The Husband and I had sex. Shockingly. Why you ask? Well, the simple answer to that is, because we’re married. And as all you married folk know, married people, especially those that have kids, just don’t knock boots very often. It’s not because the desire isn’t there, it is. But, that desire is often hiding in some deep dark closet and disguised as something else. It’s hardly recognizable.

For me it’s the getting started. He touches me and inwardly, I say no. But soon, I let go of the day’s stresses, the list of things that need to get done gets tossed aside. I stop thinking about the pile of laundry or what is on my list of things to do the next day. And the “no” turns into, “oh, this isn’t so bad.” The thought of I’d rather be sleeping and sugar plums turns into I guess I better do my wifely duty. Then the thought of wifely duty turns into I want to be a nasty bad girl tonight.

We do our thing, we connect and it’s good it’s better than good. I forget how much I enjoy the physicality of the act. How nice it is to feel uninhibited. How natural it is to be with someone else. How nice it is to be pleasured and to reciprocate. With the dampness of a light sweat on our bodies, we promise each other to “do it” more often. We feel connected and we feel like we’re on the same side again.

This morning when he left, the I love you sounded a little more sincere, there was a lightness in our steps and the little slap on my tush seemed like aplayful and a reminder of the fun we both had last night.

So people, feel the love and make it happen. Go have fun with your partners. They will appreciate it, you’ll appreciate it and really, go ahead and set aside your lists, your worries and forgo that sleep because really, it only takes 20-30 minutes.

12 comments:

Obese Swan said...

A-W-E-S-O-M-E post!!! I could have written the first part cuz umm 2 kids LOL

Shelley said...

Oooh, someone's feeling the love today! Seriously, I could never write a post like this (I'm turning red just reading it, lol), but I agree with you.

allthingsjuice said...

You go girl!

Amy said...

Awesome post! And oh so true once kids enter the picture. I never, ever thought I would desire sleep more than sex until I became a parent!

MB said...

WOW! 20-30 minutes? You are a lucky girl. I think I vaguely remember how to do those things but it's been a while. I hear it is just like riding a bike though. ;)

couchSpud said...

I was thinking about this today, and part of the difference between being married and dating is that when you're dating, you know that you've set aside a particular amount of time to be with that person. Hence, you're ready to be romantic and prepared to have sex. Sometimes my husband grabs me right after I've drunk a 16 oz. soda and it doesn't feel so good. That's gotta be part of it. I don't really think my desire is any less though, how about you?

Dee said...

I came across your blog and wanted to say hi.

Even though I'm a stay-at-home mom of four, we have a great sex life!! We have to make time for one another or the kids will drive us insane lol. It keeps things balanced. It's most definitely a stress reliever and a chance to feel closer to my hubby:)

Dee~

Wendy said...

20-30 minutes! WOw!

yeah, it sounds like someone is totally feeling the love today! good for you!

Val said...

"Then the thought of wifely duty turns into I want to be a nasty bad girl tonight." HA! Get it girl!

This is a great post. Hubby and I kinda go thru peaks and valleys. Sometimes we make the time, and then other times *ahem, NOW* we are in a dry spell. I think I need to stop reading blogs and go to bed......

Very good advice!!!

Hanlie said...

Ah, I knew I had to do something tonight! Thanks for the reminder!

Lynn said...

I must be a freak.

I swear, I'm the only woman I know who has a serious sex overdrive. It's ALMOST ALWAYS me taking initiative... seriously, I get cranky if I'm more than two days without unless I'm sick (or TOM).

Good for you for remembering that really, it's necessary!!

H.K. said...

I totally agree with you! Unfortunately, we have a teenager in the house who is more savvy to the sounds coming out of our bedroom door, so we have to wait when he's out with his friends! Great post!