Monday, April 27, 2009

Thoughts on The Passing

We’re trying to adjust to life without The Uncle. It comes and goes in waves. I’m sad, The Husband even more so. 55 years old, heart attack. Gone. Suddenly.

The family was able to harvest some of his organs and give life to someone that might not have been able to live without our tragedy. I hope, the transplants took and I hope their families are as grateful and happy as we are heartbroken. That is life. Ups. Downs. It doesn’t always happen the way we think it should, but it happens the way it’s suppose to.

We spent time with The Aunt. Valium induced calmness. Waves of tears whenever someone new showed up to share her grief. There are so many people around. I wonder what it will be like for her when this storm passes and the quietness of solitude loudly ringing in her ears. In a week, when the last family member retreats back into routine, she’ll be home, alone. What will those days and especially nights be like. She doesn’t have a job to go back to. No normal routine to take comfort in, since her normal was to be with her also retired husband. She’s never lived alone. Quiet. Thoughts. Grief. Tears. Anger. Dying so soon was not the deal, but it is now.

Which way will life turn?

Make the best of this life.


Monica said...

My 30 year old cousin passed in January and its still hard for me to process. I cannot imagine the pain my aunt is going through...

Please know that my thoughts and prayers are with your family. Loss is never easy. God Bless.

Jenn@slim-shoppin said...

I'm so sorry about your Uncle. My brother in law is dying from cancer now...he's 51. They told him he has probably two months to live. I don't know which is harder, a sudden death, or knowing one is coming.

And you're right, what happens when everyone else gets on with their life and your Aunt has to deal with a different life herself.

Not fair at all! My thoughts are with your family

Christina said...

I lost my Uncle last summer in a motor cycle crash. He was only 45. It's a horrible and sad time and really doesn't get any easier. I can't imagine your Aunt's grief and how alone she will feel. My prayers are with your family during this time of sadness.

Christine said...

Make the best of life is 100% correct.


Gigi said...

Sorry for all your sadness. Heartbreak can happen in the blink of an eye with no rhyme or reason. You are so right - make the best of every day you have. Thoughts and prayers your way from here.

MizFit said...

Im so sorry for your loss as well.

Life is so fleeting and some days (all days?) it feels as though all I can do is repeatedly remind those that I love that I LOVE THEM.

Hanlie said...

I'm thinking of you, the Husband and the Aunt in this difficult time. Great writing... You have captured the sadness and the implications perfectly.