So, there’s The Wedding in July. We’re spending a TON of money on it. Here’s roughly the breakdown:
Matron of Honor dress: $165
Airfare for 3 of us: $1300
Hotel for the 4 nights: $600
3 tickets for the baseball game out of town guests are invited to go to a couple days before the wedding: $75
Miscellaneous expenses (food/fun/cabs/etc) for the 5 days we’re out of town: $500
As all good Matron of Honors do, I’m also flying across the country Memorial Day Weekend and hosting a shower for her. I’m not including that other expense (gulp) in this since that’s really my choosing and could have not given her a shower, I suppose.
I also told her I was going to borrow a dress for The Little Miss. She wasn’t really happy about it, but the one she really wanted was almost $75. I just couldn’t do that knowing full well the free one is just as pink and just as fluffy as the other.
We’re spending, on the lean side $2600, to be there. That’s a lot of money. $2600 worth of money. I know The Bride has been a big part of my life for a long time. I know I shouldn’t be so bitter about all of this, but I am. I know she’s busy making sure the blue in our dresses doesn’t clash with the blue in the room where the reception is going to be held. I know she’s busy tasting wedding cakes and making sure she has a photographer that remembers to take off the lens cap. I know she’s busy. I know there’s lots of things to think about. But when I don’t hear from her for weeks, even after I email her, except for getting the generic “check out our wedding website for exciting new updates about our wedding” emails, I get a bit pissed.
Is what I’m feeling wrong? I hate that I’m feeling this way. I wish I could just be super happy for her. I wish I could just set aside the cost. I wish I didn’t have to think about the time, and effort we’re putting forth. But, I can’t. Maybe it’s because I can’t imagine asking people to spend that much money, time and effort on me. I’m just one family. There’s a lot of other families who have more kids and more logistical challenges to overcome to make it to the wedding. It just seems to be asking a lot. I couldn’t do it, it’s not right for me. And do we still have to buy a wedding present?